Why should you be dating
How else can our families see their grandchildren/niece/nephews grow up? While others are investing their extra dollars in college or retirement accounts, we are saving up for our next airline tickets to Germany!
We love visiting family but it can put an added strain on our marriage since we never really get a “true” vacation to places that we’d like to visit and don’t know a soul. ,000 is a lot of money which we’d love to be able to invest for the future.
The knowledge of this weighs heavy on me from time to time. I can’t remember the last time we took a long vacation that didn’t have as its core visiting family members.
Since we live relatively far from my American family, we alternate vacation years so that we can visit his family one year and mine the next.
Aside from getting used to living with one another, we had overarching cultural differences to deal with which could really wear us down and test our marriage. Even though my husband feels very comfortable here in the States, he still doesn’t feel 100 percent at home.
Even today we hit cultural nuances that test our boundaries. Not only do others treat him as a foreigner, no matter how hard he tries, this country will just never hold the same degree of comfort as his country of origin. Ever since my husband and I have been together vacations have taken on a whole new meaning: Visiting family.
There’s a huge difference between giving a guy six weeks to choose you over the other women he’s dating…
You win this one by assessing his efforts and concluding that you’re wasting your time.
This woman is tearing her hair out because she doesn’t know how to apply my advice. Are you always nice when they call and say “yes” to the date? She needed me to set her straight and show her what her guy was actually thinking. She didn’t have to do anything except say yes and not judge me while I worked it all out in my head.
What DID surprise me is that, after the initial chemistry rush, Janie settled into a low-intensity pseudo-relationship that didn’t leave her at all satisfied. If he doesn’t follow through fast enough or often enough, make a mental note: “Hmm… I may have casually seen my wife for the first 4 weeks of our relationship, but I would always email the next day to say I had fun.
Which is why I wasn’t at all surprised when she met a man only two weeks into our coaching sessions. Application of this made-up “rule” is surprisingly simple. He calls, he texts, he emails – you just “mirror” his efforts and give him enthusiasm and warmth every time.
We’ll hope to work out college and retirement as best we can. At least one set of grandparents is always far away. Or will we let our children decide based on where they are living?
Our children will never be able to have both sets of grandparents living nearby. Skype is a wonderful thing but it still doesn’t replace spending time with real, live grandparents, aunts and uncles. And here is one more general question: Where will we be buried when we die? Many of us know the answer already while others have no idea.